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Deirdre Hendersen, Ph.D.'s avatar

This is my favorite phrase.

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Brenda J's avatar

I am SO excited it resonates with you!! And, thanks for commenting on the app. I appreciate it.

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Patti Medvescek's avatar

I use this phrase when I talk to myself! Every "no" means a yes to something else. And I agree. Explanations aren't required most of the time.

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Brenda J's avatar

I ❤️❤️❤️❤️ that and it is similar to the Steve Jobs’ message about innovation requires saying no to 1,000 other things.

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Suitor Karen's avatar

I need to learn to say no. I end up doing too many things I don’t want to do or that are a significant interruption because I’m too afraid of not being ‘liked’ if I say no. I’ve known this about myself for a long time. 😖

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Brenda J's avatar

It's not easy is it? You are also the type of person who gets “stuff” done.

I could never say no to my Mom because I never wanted her to “want” for anything. (Even though I knew most of my loans to her were being passed on to others 😬. They were not for her.)

I have gotten really good at saying no, and I hope others are learning from my example.

Good luck to you. It is never too late.

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Ellen Webster's avatar

I once reviewed a play where you got to decide what characters to follow through the maze of a venue, learning what that character knew about the story but not what others did. In that review, I noted something that has stayed with me and is echoed in your wonderful piece. In choosing what to see, what have I chosen not to see? These choices matter. Over the years, saying "no" has been like a world of possibilities opening up . . .

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Ellen Webster's avatar

I will share and would like to repost it in my blogs in the near future. 💚

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Brenda J's avatar

Thank you, Ellen for commenting and sharing. I look forward to partnering collaboratively with Age Buoyantly!

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